Twenty Years, One Weekend

For twenty years I kept one sex secret to myself. One girls’ weekend, I found out 86% of women enjoy the same thing.

Three glasses in, one of my friends finally asked the question none of us had asked in two decades of friendship. The OMGYES research had already heard from thousands of women, and the answer wasn’t close: most of us love it, and 80% have never said so to anyone. It even has a name, Broadening, and I’d been certain I was the odd one out.

The secret was never the habit. It was the silence.

Women: whatever you’ve been quietly sure is only yours, odds are most of your friends share it.

Partners: she may already know exactly what she likes. Asking is the easy part, and you might be the first person she tells.