OMGYES Stories Consistency

"Just Like That!" Doesn't Mean "Go Faster!"

I’ll confess. I’ve read dozens of books about sex (and embarrassingly large stacks of Cosmo magazines). But, I recently learned that this old dog can still learn new tricks. For example, did you know that two-thirds of women want consistency in bed? Seems odd that not one of those authors has ever mentioned it.

Unlike the many sex tip writers I’ve read, the team at OMGYES did actual scientific research to find out, empirically, what women enjoy in bed.

Here’s their intro video:

“Consistency” is key

The OMGYES site covers something like 50 topics. But the “Consistency” chapter got my attention right away.

Here’s the thing. With every partner ever, as soon as I would say, “Yes, just like that!” they would switch it up, usually going harder and faster.

And the mountain I was climbing towards climax? I’d fall right back down to the base.

I understand that faster and more furious may feel good to men as they approach the finish line, but it’s not the same for me!

If the OMGYES research is correct, and you’re a woman, there’s a two out of three chance that you’ve experienced the same thing.

The team at OMGYES calls what I need “consistency.”

It just means moving the exact same way when I’m close to orgasm. Now, I can tell my partners “When I say ‘just like that’ it means don’t change anything!” It helps to have something specific to ask for to avoid losing momentum and actually come.

I like OMGYES for a few reasons. First, they’re the only company doing legit research on what actually feels good for tens of thousands of women. And they’ve gotten a variety of real women to go on camera to explain and demonstrate the techniques they use to amp up their pleasure.

One thing the OMGYES researchers found is a new arousal stage, between building up and orgasming. It’s called “the approach,” and it’s where consistency is vital for me.

The Story Behind OMGYES

So the OMGYES founders first needed to understand female sexual pleasure. This meant studying it extensively. So, they found expert sex researchers at top institutions like Yale and the Kinsey Institute. OMGYES is funding peer-reviewed studies on tens of thousands of women, enabling these experts to finally conduct the research they’d been trying to do for years.

Next, Lydia and Rob needed to translate their findings into videos, guides, illustrations, and more that anyone could understand, learn from, and follow along with at home.

At the same time, they needed to normalize talking about women’s sexual pleasure by creating a shared language around it. It’s so much easier to discuss things like consistency now that I’ve seen other women speak openly about it, without shame or embarrassment.

To see what the explanations videos on OMGYES are like, check out the two videos below about consistency:

My OMGYES Review

Watching these women, I couldn’t help but nod my head in recognition. I’ve never seen anyone explain this concept so clearly. Heck, I’ve never seen anyone explain it at all! What they’re doing by just talking openly about their pleasure feels nothing short of revolutionary.

One thing that sets OMGYES apart, besides the scientific bona fides, is how clean and elegant the site is. It’s very approachable. For a website all about sex and sexual pleasure, it’s remarkably… I don’t know… not-boudoir? I think porn is fine, personally. But they’re very clearly going for a not-porn vibe. Which I think is cool.

The website and its mission is so singular, which makes it a bit hard-to-describe. But imagine you had a cool, wealthy wine aunt who also happened to have a PhD in human sexuality with a focus on women’s pleasure.

The big difference is that I hope to God your aunt is going to take her pants off and show you how she likes to be touched. OMGYES goes there. And I love that, because why the heck not? There’s nothing to be embarrassed about here!

Giving the Techniques a Try

Okay, let’s talk about putting what I’ve learned into practice. The first thing I did was pay attention to how consistently I humped my magazine when I masturbated. Actually, the first thing I did was start actually admitting that that’s how I masturbated!

Trying out consistency, I found that it wasn’t necessary for me to stay consistent to orgasm on my stomach. But, it was fun to play with trying to be more consistent when approaching orgasm. If nothing else, it’s a great way to prolong the plateau period and edge myself without losing my orgasm.

I also started paying attention to how it felt when my partners were consistent in the ways they touched and/or fucked me. And I began telling partners how it feels when they go from zero to sixty just as I’m about to get there when what I’m really looking for is for them to maintain a steady speed. There’s a reason women care about how a man dances. There’s a reason women love drummers. We want to know that you can keep a rhythm.

The Big Idea

I think OMGYES is for anyone who’s interested in women’s sexual pleasure. This includes people who are just curious to know more. And obviously it includes women and the people who have sex with us.

I think it’s for people who already know a lot about sex, or think we do. Because there’s always more to learn. And it’s for people who are new to sex. The great thing about something like this when you’re new is that you don’t have to overcome a lot of existing assumptions. I’m so done with men who think that just because something worked with one person it’s always the “right” way to do things.

One thing OMGYES demonstrates is that there is no one right way to do sex. Yes, there are patterns in what women tend to like. But every person is unique. And what works for each person, or even the same person on a different day, will be different.

No course or guide or website is going to guarantee that you’ll be good at sex or have great sex. But OMGYES is the best resource that exists for making sure you have the knowledge and the tools to know where to begin.

I highly recommend every woman and everyone who has sex with a woman go check out OMGYES. Get it, and spend some time clicking these animations, watching these videos, and trying these techniques. You won’t be worse off for it.