Pairing, Allowed

“You do that all the time on your own,” my best friend said. “So why not during sex?” I honestly didn’t know it was allowed.

Turns out the OMGYES researchers asked thousands of women about exactly this, and there’s a word for it: Pairing. Only 18% of women orgasm from penetration alone. Add Pairing, and it’s 73%.

It was never against the rules. We’d all just been being polite.

Women: the ways you already know work when you’re alone? They’re invited.

Partners: this isn’t a correction of anything you do. It’s an invitation to add something she already knows works, and to enjoy watching it work.