Just Like That

‘Just like that’ might be the most misunderstood sentence in sex. I misunderstood it too.

For years I’d say “just like that,” and he’d speed up, and the moment would slip away. Then I read what the OMGYES research found: 65% of women like the touch kept exactly the same. Not faster. Not harder. The same.

There’s a name for it. And for the whole stretch of pleasure that comes before.

Women: if you’ve ever held your breath hoping nothing changes, that isn’t you being particular. It’s most of us.

Partners: when she’s close, the most generous move is to keep going exactly as you are. The research shows why, and what comes before that moment.