2023-10-17 Sex Journalist

I road tested this sex website and here’s what happened

by Lucía Castro

As a sex journalist, I have spent years studying pleasure and the many ways to achieve it. And there is no shortage of cheap “advice” on the internet like using the heel of a bottle to stimulate the clitoris or facial intercourse. 

So, when I was introduced to OMGYES, a platform for female pleasure, I really didn't think I would find anything new; however, it taught me something very important: That you will never know it all. No matter how experienced or knowledgeable you think you might be.

The idea behind the website is crazy-simple. They partner with top researchers and ask thousands of women what works for them. Then they find the patterns and show you how and why they work.

Here’s their intro video:

When I went to the website, I found it to be an easy site to navigate and understand, and it had a very varied menu of techniques.

After taking a few minutes scanning the content, I realized that:

1. I have A LOT of new thing to try
2. That my self-crowned title of “expert masturbator” must be withdrawn.

The techniques, explanations, women's experiences, explicit tutorials, and animations of anatomy are amazing. They have these simulations with a digital vulva that you can practice on virtually with your fingers. Although it seemed gratuitous at first, I quickly saw how useful it was to simulate the nuances of touch. I loved it! 

This experience jolted me back to when I was little and I learned to apply makeup with the barbie.com games, only now I learn to masturbate with omyges.com.

But while this entire website may sound somewhat surreal, for my first date with the experience, I decided to focus where every journey should begin - The Essentials. The first collection of OMGYES techniques.

I checked out the technique ‘Staging’ and learnt that arousal has five phases: Building Desire, Warm-up, Build-up, Approach and Orgasm. Some may last more or less, it all depends on the stimulation and time you give to each of these stages.

And to be honest, I would like the climax phase to be the one that lasts the longest! But the Approach could take several minutes and may never reach closure. This was all news to me but so useful to be in tune with. It dawned on me that of course I didn’t know - no one teaches us how to masturbate!

Luckily, as an “average masturbator” (I lost the expert title above), I had already discovered my own formula to reach orgasm on my own. And someone cannot consider themselves a masturbation expert if they do not know how to share their knowledge about their own pleasure. That has been my biggest problem.

Outside of my single bed, when I was with a partner, even if I was touching myself, the orgasm took a while or never came, and that has made me feel dissatisfied, not with my partners, but with myself several times.

I was never able to fully explain why it was happening, but when I started reading OMGYES’s explanation I was able to find the answer. I realized that the key to an effective orgasm is the importance of respecting each of its phases. We cannot go directly from excitement to resolution, we must first reach the plateau. That is why, with the advice of OMGYES, I decided to know each of my stages by writing them down.

“This may sound a little strange, but some women say that it is best to write down what you do step by step. Instead of having a general idea of what you like, you can create your ‘magic recipes’ and share them with your partner.”

And since every poem needs a title, I discovered this first magical recipe, “The Double Circle,” from the Orbiting section. You make two circular motions to get there. First, slow circles for at least 1 minute on the tip of my clitoral hood with one finger. Then, faster circles throughout the surface area with two fingers constantly.

You may wonder why I mention these two parts, but as I told you at the beginning, the excitement phase is very important, so circle one is to reach the excitement and the second circle is to reach the maximum climax.

According to data from OMGYES, 77.2% of women who say they have had orgasms of different intensity say that more intense orgasms are the result of spending more time increasing arousal, little by little.

Now task two, to get out of the title of “average masturbator” I needed to replicate this formula with someone else. So, like a good sex journalist, I opened the list of sources and called “Trusted Loverboy #1” – there aren't many – to show him and put the “Double Circles” to the test.

He came over to my house, I told him that we had a job to do. I took out my cell phone and showed my teacher: OMGYES. He was also very surprised with the tutorials and tips there were. I even asked him to try the virtual simulator.

So, after he practiced with the virtual vagina, I told him that it was time to try the real thing and the great thing is that the website not only gives you practical guidance, but also to know how to communicate to your partner what you want. According to OMGYES, you can do it without words, showing it to them with your hands or telling them directly, either in the moment or beforehand by looking at the website together.

Sometimes sex feels like you’ve handed your partner a map and asked them to go find the pleasure. OMGYES has drawn out the paths that most other women have successfully used to find the treasure. For couples, this feels like such a no-brainer.

“For couples, a great way to get these cues is to ask for cues with questions like “Higher or lower?” or "Faster or slower?" These types of questions are much easier to answer.”

I confidently began to explain the Double Circles technique. “From top to bottom on the left labia. From top to bottom on the right lip. Then, circles on the tip, fast and constant. Faster Faster. Shorter. Like this(...) Continue, continue, continue. I'm about to come. Ah, Ah, Ah.”

And it was like that, with a final shout and deep breaths, that I regained my expert title of masturbator. Also, like me, “Loverboy 1# ” said that it had been an eye-opening experience and that I should show him more of the website, but I told him that if he wanted to meet again, it had to include at least my favorite dinner: sushi. My benefits as a sexuality journalist are not free, and neither are those of my lifetime OMGYES account.